How to Recover After Losing your Job
It’s a regular Friday afternoon and you can’t wait for the weekend. You and your colleague make small talk about weekend plans as you work, when your boss calls you to his office. You go in hoping he doesn’t take too much of your time, as you still need to finish a few tasks before you go home.
“We need to let you go…”
You don’t hear the rest of what he says. You’re too busy trying to hide the range of emotions roiling inside of you.
You are not alone.
Different people react differently to the same situation. Maybe you are the “optimist” who would choose to think that this is the best thing to happen to you (Now you can go on that vacation…).
Maybe you’re the kind of person who would need to grieve under these circumstances. Maybe you’d fume in anger. Whichever kind of person you are and whatever reaction you may have, you must accept the situation and deal with it. There’s nothing to be gained by living in denial or blaming anybody, including yourself.
Sometimes terrible things happen for no obvious reason and you may not have control over them, but don’t let that make you forget that you are in charge of your life. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Join that yoga class you have never had the time for before but always wanted to try. Learn a new skill to help you in your job search. Make use of this time to re-invent yourself. Trivial things like a new hairstyle can do wonders for your self-esteem.
Your Job is to find a job
The next thing to do is to set up a nice routine for yourself that involves exercise, eating healthy, socializing with your friends and family and prioritizing your job hunt. Most people seem to shy away from socializing when something like this happens, but the truth is your social network can help you bounce back quicker and give you much-needed moral support. Come up with a concrete action plan and a timetable so you remain focused on your job hunt, and treat your job search as your full-time job.
Tap in to your existing professional network. Email your old colleagues and look up contacts on LinkedIn. See if you can leverage your connections to find an opportunity. You can also build your network by volunteering at organizations in your industry, which also makes for valid work experience.
Despite doing all the above, you’ll still have the occasional bad day when everything seems hopeless. When you feel like the world is against you and “Why me?” won’t stop echoing in your head. What do you do then? Have a good cry if necessary, then think about what Frank Sinatra said: “The best revenge is massive success.”
Sleep on it. Then begin again.
Latha Ram | Contributing Writer